Just for a second…
Pause.
I am tired of making a name for myself, and need to create a life for myself. My values have changed. My plan needs to change. I have checked all the boxes my entire life, but there is an obvious disconnect. I just don’t know exactly what is disconnected. My childhood dreams have morphed into lifeless income streams.
Your invitation
Come Explore
With a true commitment to coaching, you can expect the sun to set on thoughts like “I can’t do it,” “I don’t have time for self-care,” ”it’s work, no one loves what they do, or “I just need to accept life as it is and be grateful.” Be grateful! Absolutely. Coaching, however, provides space for us to be both grateful and comfortably excited to explore something new.
Get Curious
Do your thoughts and beliefs about yourself keep you in your own personal cave? Rough waters. Hard to see. Could you use a light? Coaching provides a very real reflection of your light to ignite, or re-ignite, your fire for all to see. But the most important person that sees and feels this light…is you. We invite you to come out of your cave.
There is a crack, a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.
Leonard Cohen
Move from autopilot to Awareness
Raise your Emotional Intelligence
Why do we want to increase our awareness and emotional intelligence in the first place? Simply stated, if we want to create new results and make lasting changes in our lives, we need a new strategy. Our current strategy is producing our current results so now we are choosing to do something differently. In order to shift old thoughts and behaviors and obtain this new result we have to be more aware. Aware of our thoughts and aware of our actions. We do this by slowing down from time to time, becoming more mindful, more intentional, being less reactionary and instead more responsive. We begin to increase our ability of perspective-taking and create new life-changing thought patterns. As we begin to see and feel these changes we have the direct added benefit of growing our emotional intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence, as defined by Daniel Goleman (author of “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More than IQ”), “is a person’s ability to manage their feelings so that those feelings are expressed appropriately and effectively.“ Goleman believes that emotional intelligence is the largest single predictor of success in the workplace. It also greatly impacts every other relationship in our lives, especially our relationship with ourselves. Our thoughts, feelings, and actions are 100% interrelated. We can learn to pause from time to time in order to identify and manage our feelings differently. With this now as an option, we will also undoubtedly learn to choose new thoughts, releasing old thought patterns, and create new actions.
Managed emotions. New thoughts and beliefs about whom you are. A clearer connection to what you value, and what you are capable of accomplishing. Different actions. A new inner monologue. All of this leads to the change you want to step into.
The absolute only thing that can prevent you from achieving this is…you. We all have inner blocks that come in the form of limiting beliefs, how we talk to ourselves internally, as well as assumptions and interpretations we make and accept as truth. This is where Coach and Rise can help. We can step in and partner with you to identify and clear these blocks. We can work together to increase your awareness and raise your emotional intelligence. With even a small desire and dedication to this work, you will design and achieve the life and goals you have set out to create. If you are open to doing the work, coaching works. Every time.
Mindfulness
Science has taught us that mindfulness is the base foundation of emotional intelligence (EQ). Developing and maintaining a mindfulness practice is the proven way to grow both our EQ, and create space for us to make the changes in our lives we want or need to incorporate. In order to influence change we have to be mindful of what we are thinking about, and create new thoughts & actions that will bring us new results. It gives us more time in the day. It’s the key to getting off autopilot.
What is mindfulness exactly? We will cover this more in our introductory call, but according to Jon Kabat-Zinn (founder of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction), it is “awareness that arises through paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, non-judgementally.” This might be the tool that changes everything.
Before Your First Session
Give yourself permission to take a few uninterrupted minutes. Give yourself this potential gift.
What would life look like for me with the improved ability of (fill in the blank i.e. emotional intelligence, executive presence, communication at work and home, motivation, etc.)?
What might life be like if I removed my (fill in the blank i.e. imposter syndrome, lack of confidence, procrastination, negative self-talk, high level of self-criticism, etc.)?
I am 72 years old, sitting on my porch in my rocking chair overlooking the creek/ocean/mountains. I am kindly reviewing my life thus far. What did I accomplish? What am I most proud of? How did I carry myself during especially hard times (i.e. with grace, frazzled, etc.)? If I have any regrets, what do I wish I did about it? If I do not have any regrets, what did I have to do to ensure I lived that way?
Lastly, other than money, time, or sleep, what do I need right now? Why is this need important to me? What am I doing to ensure I give myself what I need (knowing self-care is not me first, it’s me too)?
How do these geese know when to fly to the sun? Who tells them the seasons? How do we, humans, know when it’s time to move on? As with the migrant birds, so surely with us, there is a voice within, if only we would listen to it, that tells us so certainly when to go forth into the unknown.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
“Every person has two lives, and the second one begins when we realize we have just one.”
- Confucius